How Self-Care Writer Lenea Sims Finds Her Flow by Making Time to Play

By Emily Gladders




In psychology, flow refers to the feeling of being totally in the zone. Whether you find it cooking, hula hooping, or in the midst of captivating conversation, flow happens when you feel so deeply involved in something that you lose track of time. As the founder of Gooey Girl, a holistic self-care platform that explores healing modalities ancient and modern, I’ve been fortunate to try a boatload of self-care practices; but, nothing makes me feel quite as tuned in as one I’ve developed called Find Your Flow.

Essentially meditation for mind-active people, Find Your Flow consists of taking a few hours each week to intentionally do whatever I want. That’s it. When I release my hold on what I “should” be doing at any given moment and instead tune into what gets me in my zone, I can open up to the divine wisdom of my highest self. When I consciously make time to listen to what my mind and body need, the work of cultivating a holistic self-care practice is complete.

Make time & make a list

The first thing I did when starting this practice was to make a list of things that got me in my zone. My list contained everything from baking to yoga to watercoloring to dancing in the mirror. The only real rules to flow activities are no working and no watching (which includes watching your phone scroll through ‘grams). Even if a Netflix binge may bring relaxation, it’s important to focus on activities that make you feel somewhat active and tuned in to your body. Next, I set aside time weekly for at least three hours of time to get my flow on, uninterrupted and unbothered. Scheduling this time may feel indulgent or even somewhat silly, but we have to treat the work we do on ourselves as important as the work we do for others so pencil it in! That said, if you can only get in an hour a week, take it!

Set the mood & set an intention

When the clock strikes and it’s time for flow, the first thing I do is light a candle or some incense, burn some palo santo, and sit with my crystals for a bit. Surrounding myself with yummy smells and trinkets makes this time feel special and sacred. Then, while basking in the excitement of the journey I’m about to take, I set an intention for my practice. This should be a simple one-liner that indicated how you want to feel at the end of the practice. One I often use is “I want to feel grounded and at peace with myself.” This helps keep me centered while I’m choosing what to do next -- as long the activity fulfills my intention, I’m all set.

Find flow

AAfter setting an intention, the next few hours are fair game to do any and every activity that feels good in my soul. I may spend the whole three hours beading or I may change my mind every 20 minutes and hop from yoga to dancing to painting to journaling. The list you’ve made is a great starting off point, but feel free to deviate as you see fit. Remember: the goal here isn’t productivity, but play.  

Give thanks

When the time has come to end my practice, I like to say a simple thank you. I give thanks to myself for taking this time to grow, heal, and thrive and also to my intuition for being my guide along the way. This helps seal in the process, making flow more than just time to goof off, but instead a sacred time for self-love and self-care.


Lenea Sims
Lenea Sims is a writer, healer, and founder of self-care platform Gooey Girl where she explores how to get through the gooey bits of life using self-care modalities modern and ancient. She is known for her approachable and inclusive approach to wellness and, recently, Essence Magazine named her one of the "Self-Care Sistahs That Helped Redefine Wellness in 2017'. Lenea is passionate about encouraging people to cultivate their own energetic health routines that heal their souls and uplift their lives. An LA native, you can find her connecting with her collective on Instagram and Twitter.